August 31, 2017

The Day Our Worlds Changed & Coping With Loss

Coping with Loss-- Joe's Jeans light denim, Forever 21 beige ribbed crop top, Rebecca Minkoff  white bucket bag, Old Navy gold sandals

I contemplated posting these photos for a long time. The memories associated with this day are bittersweet. My mom and I had a planned staycation at a hotel in the city a few months ago. It started off fabulous. A day of shopping around town, lunching at Early Bird, then we checked into the hotel where we settled in for some drinks by the pool. The night was off to a great start, dinner at Gusto 101 and ice cream and cookies to go. Then we got the call in the middle of the night. Someone very dear to us had passed. It was like the world came to a stop. We quickly packed up our things and bolted out of there.  The past week and half have been a whirlwind. There are no words to describe loss.





Although these photos are from that day, just hours earlier, I am still posting them. The outfit is pretty basic, jeans and a tee, but the memories are full. I'm posting them as a reminder of love and life and all the beautiful moments. We shared a few amazing hours together before our worlds had changed. We need to focus on those beautiful moments. Hold on to them real tight. Embrace them. Lean into them. Never let them go. As I struggle with loss, not only of this person, but a little bit of myself, I am constantly looking for things to focus on. To keep remembering to focus on the good. It's so important. How do we focus on this? I've been doing a few things to at least try.

1. Be surrounded by loved ones. This is not always easy when sometimes all you want to do is curl up in bed. But it helps to stay close to others. Bask into each other, reminisce about fun, happy times, and create new memories.

2. Don't hold it in. I have never been one to hold in my emotions. Letting it out just seems to help. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream, scream. Do what you need to do. Be thankful you have emotions to share.

3. Occupy yourself. Closet purge? Check. Pantry de-cluttering? It has seemed to help. Go out when you feel like absolute crap. I'm doing it now. I was having a moment, so I packed up my stuff and I'm sitting at Starbucks. I look outside and there is beauty. There are families, people are laughing, life is good.

I know these are pretty standard coping mechanisms, but sometimes a little reminder can be a good thing. Do you have any ways of coping with loss? It's not always easy to talk about, but the more we can, the easier it becomes.


W H A T  I ' M  W E A R I N G :
Joe's Jeans, Forever 21 top, Rebecca Minkoff bag (similar), Old Navy sandals (similar), NARS Powermatte Lip Pigment in Get It On 

S H O P  T H E  P O S T:




Coping with Loss-- Joe's Jeans light denim, Forever 21 beige ribbed crop top, Rebecca Minkoff  white bucket bag, Old Navy gold sandals
Coping with Loss-- Joe's Jeans light denim, Forever 21 beige ribbed crop top, Rebecca Minkoff  white bucket bag, Old Navy gold sandals

Coping with Loss-- Joe's Jeans light denim, Forever 21 beige ribbed crop top, Rebecca Minkoff  white bucket bag, Old Navy gold sandals

Coping with Loss-- Joe's Jeans light denim, Forever 21 beige ribbed crop top, Rebecca Minkoff  white bucket bag, Old Navy gold sandals

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3 comments

  1. So sorry to hear about your loss. I too experienced loss this summer - my very close aunt passed away. It was so hard and I felt like crap for weeks after. My coping mechanisms were very similar to yours, but the most important one is to not judge your emotions. It's okay to feel sad for as long as you need to feel sad. It's okay to be angry. Just go with the flow of your emotions and remember that you won't always feel sad.

    xo Megan
    @meganmarsiglio
    theommlife.com

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  2. Such a beautiful post.Gabrielle 💜 Through all of this we have so much to celebrate and cherish ☮️

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